This information is for young people aged 16 years and older.

Sex can be lots of different things.

When people have sex they might kiss each other’s lips and bodies.

You need to get and give consent for kissing.

Partners might touch each other’s bodies.

You need to get and give consent for every kind of touching.

Partners might touch their own and each other’s private body parts.

This is called mutual masturbation.

You need to get and give consent for mutual masturbation.

Some people enjoy having the inside of their vagina touched.

The person or their partner might gently slide their finger, or fingers, in and out of the vagina.

You need to get and give consent for every kind of touching.

Some people like having oral sex.

Oral sex is when partners use their lips or tongues to touch each other’s penis or vulva.

You need to get and give consent for oral sex.

Oral sex on a vulva is when a partner uses their mouth and tongue to kiss, lick or gently suck the vulva.

They might do this to the clitoris, vagina or labia.

Only have oral sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

Oral sex on a penis is when a one partner puts the penis inside their mouth.

They might kiss, lick or gently suck the penis.

Only have oral sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

If partners get very aroused (the penis gets hard/erect and the vulva gets slippy and wet) they might want to have penetrative sex.

One way to have penetrative sex is to put the penis into the vagina.

You need to get and give consent for penis in vagina sex. Only have sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

Some people have anal sex.

Anal sex is when a person puts their penis into their partner’s anus (bottom).

You need to get and give consent for anal sex. Only have anal sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

Vulva on vulva sex is when two people rub their vulvas together. They might also rub their vulva against their partner’s leg.

Only have vulva on vulva sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

Not everyone has sex in the same way.

Only have sex if you and your partner both want to and both enjoy it.

You need to get and give consent for every kind of sex.

You can get STIs from having sex.

STI is a short way of saying sexually transmitted infection.

Condoms and dams can stop you from getting or passing on STIs.

Penis in vagina sex can make a woman, or a person with a uterus, pregnant.

Being pregnant means having a baby grow in the uterus.

If you do not want to get pregnant when having penis in vagina sex, you need to use condoms or contraception.

Move down the page to learn how bodies can feel different before and during sex.

People might get sexually aroused when they think about sex, or start kissing and touching their partner.

A person’s body might show their sexual arousal.

Private body parts may feel nice, tingly, wet or feel bigger.

A person’s penis may get erect (hard).

It might feel sensitive and good to touch.

There might be a bit of fluid or wetness at the tip of the penis.

A person’s clitoris might feel more sensitive.

It might feel good to touch.

It might feel bigger than usual, feel hard, or stick out a bit more.

A person’s vulva and vagina might feel wet and slippy.

They might feel more sensitive and good to touch.

A person’s nipples might get hard.

They might feel sensitive and good to touch.

The good feelings people get when they touch their private body parts or have sex is called sexual arousal  or sexual pleasure.

Sometimes sexual arousal and pleasure feels really strong and intense. This can become an orgasm.

An orgasm is a really good feeling.

Learn more about sexual arousal and pleasure.

Learn more about how to know if you are ready to have sex.